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Edward goes to Elinor to express his true feelings and they are reunited happily in the end. In contrast to her elder sister, Marianne is beautiful, outgoing, excitable, passionate and romantic. When she is caught in a storm with an injured leg, she is rescued by the dashing young Mr. Willoughby who happened to be passing by and carries her safely home. Marianne is charmed and swept off her feet by his physical appearance and gallant manners.
Willoughby courts her and leads her to believe he is deeply in love. She is heartbroken when she later learns about his bad reputation with women and his engagement to a wealthy woman for her money.
Marianne discovers that a lover's character, capacity for real affection and personal values are a far truer and more lasting basis for successful relationship than external appearances. Elinor possesses a strength of understanding and a coolness of judgment by virtue of which she, though only nineteen years, is capable of being her mother's counselor.Sense and Sensibility 1995 - Edward Proposes to Elinor
She is able, by means of these qualities, to keep in check her mother's eagerness of mind which would otherwise have led that lady to acts of imprudence.
Elinor's disposition is certainly affectionate, and her feelings are certainly strong. But she knows how to govern her affections and her feelings. This capacity to govern the feelings and the emotions is something alien to her mother as well as to her sister Marianne. Marianne's abilities are, in many respects, quite equal to Elinor's. She is sensible and clever, but she is too eager in everything, so that her sorrow and her joys know no moderation.
She is everything but prudent, and in this respect she resembles her mother closely. Elinor feels somewhat worried because of her sister's excessive sensibility; but their mother values and cherishes this trait of Marianne's. Dashwood and Marianne tend to encourage each other in the intensity of their misery and sorrow, as, for instance, when the family is badly treated by Fanny. Elinor too feels miserable at this time; but she has the capacity to struggle against her misery and to exert herself, whereas Marianne and Mrs.
Compare and Contrast the Character of Elinor and Marianne
Dashwood simply surrender to their misery. The entire contrast between the characters of Elinor and Marianne may be summed up by saying that, while Elinor embodies sense, Marianne embodies sensibility.
Elinor can exercise restraint upon her feelings; she possesses the strength to command her feelings and emotions; she has the virtue of prudence; and she tends to be stoical in the face of disappointment or failure.
Marianne is susceptible to feeling to an excessive degree. She is lacking in self-command, in self-restraint, and in the capacity to keep her emotions under control. The contrast between the two sisters, as stated by the novelist herself at the outset, is the most conspicuous feature of this novel. The story of the novel gives us incident after incident to demonstrate this contrast so that it is indelibly impressed upon our minds, no matter what the scholarly critics might say in this context.
In fact the novel is, on the whole, a story of "the loving tension" between the two sisters. The "tension" arises from their different views about things and persons, and from their disagreements; but it is a "loving," tension because they feel a genuine mutual affection, and are deeply attached to each other. They have different criteria of judging Edward's worth. One of the earliest incidents to bring out this contrast is Edward Ferrar's visit to Norland Park when the mother with her three daughters is yet living there.
Elinor and Marianne react to this young man in absolutely different ways. If we are fortunate, we receive adequate amounts from our very first caregivers, especially our primary caregivers.
Attachment style is characterized as secure or insecure. Securely attached people feel comfortable with close relationships, believing that they live in a world in which their emotional needs will be met. They connect authentically, openly expressing their feelings while remaining perceptive about the needs and emotions of people they relate to; they have well-developed powers of empathy.
They possess good self-esteem because they have learned that they are worth being recognized for who they are. And they regulate emotions in a balanced way, neither suppressing nor being dominated by negative emotional states.
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The insecurely attached have deficits in these areas. Marianne exhibits an insecure attachment style known as anxious-preoccupied attachment. As the name suggests, this attachment style involves preoccupation with relationships. Anxious-preoccupied attachment is characterized by sensitivity, self-involvement, and an inability to regulate emotions; these traits are exacerbated by close relationships, often romantic relationships in adulthood, because attachment styles with caregivers are often replicated within intimate relationships.
Marianne manifests these characteristics from the start of her romance with Willoughby, when he sweeps her off her feet both literally after she has twisted her ankle and metaphorically. Even when Marianne believes that Willoughby loves her and will be faithful, she is nevertheless obsessed preoccupied with him and the relationship, a hallmark of this attachment style. But she nevertheless writes to him immediately and waits on tenterhooks for his response. Even after the terrible evening when they meet at a ball and Willoughby greets Marianne formally, as a distant friend rather than as the woman he loves, she continues to hold on to the relationship, convinced that someone has maligned her to him.
Only when he answers her desperate notes with the cruel letter that definitively ends their relationship—and denies that such a relationship ever existed—does Marianne let go, spiraling into an intractable depression. We can assume that Marianne had an insecure ambivalent relationship with her mother as a baby and child preoccupied attachment is called ambivalent attachment in young people.
Babies who develop this attachment style have unreliable sources of resonance because their primary caregivers fail to attune consistently to their emotional states. Unreliable resonance on the part of a caregiver has nothing to do with love: For instance, such a caregiver might scoop a child up, showering the child with kisses, when the baby craves quiet and rest.
At another time, the caregiver might be right on target with recognizing what the child requires. This type of reaction is known as emotional contagion, and it is very different from resonance Singer and Lamm 83—84; Coplan; Hatfield, Cacioppo, and Rapson; Kravetz. She returns with the signs of her sorrow all too obvious: Dashwood withdraws at precisely the moment that Marianne needs her to seek her out, too involved with her own feelings to be a comfort to her daughter.
We might infer that she makes things worse rather than better for Marianne because emotional contagion often leads to a spiral of increasing negativity; in any case, Marianne does not calm down: Marianne will also make excuses for Willoughby until she can no longer deny his perfidy. Dashwood is as upset and deluded as Marianne and therefore unable to provide not only attunement, but the parental guidance so crucial to teenagers.
A therapeutic alliance addresses such unproductive and reflexive responses, ideally enabling clients to develop better modes of response than the patterns that brought them to therapy, including the capacity to regulate emotions, so lacking for Marianne. We can see Elinor facilitating such an experience for Marianne. Dashwood, she does not become overwhelmed by it. Dashwood should have done.
Such regulation takes place both immediately and in the longer term. In a therapeutic relationship which applies to the sistersthe therapist first resonates with the negative emotion, then provides the regulated alternative exemplified by his or her own state of mind.
Individual instances of therapeutic regulation gradually instill an increased capacity to deal with refractory, volatile, and negative feelings. Regulation occurs between caregivers and children who exhibit secure attachment.
Caregivers down-regulate negative excitation, thereby gradually teaching the child to do so on his or her own. John Bowlby, one of the founders of attachment theory, explained that children develop internal working models, largely implicit knowledge of how to manage difficult emotions. Regulation becomes habitual and subconscious, like driving, or dancing a quadrille.
This internalization happens at the level of neurology as well as psychology: Like the child in a secure attachment relationship, the therapeutic subject gradually develops an increased capacity for regulation. When Marianne emerges from her illness, it is clear that a transformation along these lines has taken place: Marianne is much better able to resist the destructive effects of negative emotions.
Something has to shift internally. Furthermore, for adults, therapy often involves learning to view events differently, which can change attitudes and thus the patterns of emotional response and behavior that accompany these attitudes. As Beth Lau observes, Sense and Sensibility instantiates many aspects of this process, which is the primary technique involved in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
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The therapeutic alliance further heals through transference, a long-standing concept that originated in Freudian psychoanalysis but which has been retained and adapted by many current psychotherapeutic approaches.
At its simplest, transference means transferring the feelings and patterns of response pertaining to an existing relationship to a subsequently established relationship. We engage in transference all the time in daily life, and, in fact, transference explains the persistence of attachment styles. People with insecure attachment styles tend to be insecure with their romantic partners, just as they were with their primary caregivers; they redirect the habits of feeling and thought from one relationship to another.
In therapy, transference provides the opportunity to rewrite old patterns through the relationship with the therapist.
Through the safety of a secure attachment relationship with the therapist, the client becomes less anxious in relationships, a change that often improves self-esteem by sending the message that the client is worthy of appropriate responses to his or her state of mind.